Thursday, August 29, 2013

Reflections on Sudden Passings


May the gardens of Heaven fulfill your every expectation.  May you be reunited with so many of those you cared for while on Earth.  Please know that you are loved and you will be missed on Earth even though the journey while we are here, can be a really difficult one. Earth is not for sissies !


                Does it ever feel to you that the world is turning too fast, and that loved ones and dear friends are leaving the Earth without adequate notice ?    Does it seem as if a percentage of the authority figures in the world have gone mad ?  Well lately it has seemed that way to me.

                I lost a dear friend this week, who was actually a human being, and not an equine, canine or feline.  (Yes, I do seem to prefer the animal kind sometimes.)  Fashioned to protect her privacy, here is my post from another blog:   (For some reason her family has decided not to publish an obituary or have a funeral.)

               I will miss my friend


              I know that we, as human beings fear the protracted "death in stages". It just seems to me that  someone you talk to one day, ought to be there the next.   I am grateful for the easy and quick passages of family and friends, for everyone but me.    I miss those of you who departed for the gardens without entropy without my suspecting that you would.

            Love to you all.


15 comments:

Gorges Smythe said...

Sudden absence is rough; my dad went that way. However, I've watched so many people suffer for so long, I now pray that I and those I love "live 'til we die." By that, I mean that we not "half die" and then linger for ages. You know what I mean, but it's tough to lose those you love, whichever way they go. Please accept my condolences.

BBC said...

I've never expected anyone to be here the next day, not even me. Life is a crap shoot.

Life is uncertain, eat dessert first, I do.

Matt said...

I lost aunt Monday. It's been strange trying to process this. There are the full range on emotions present, all needing to be serviced and I find myself looking for any distraction for any length of time until the next one can come along.

With the mess going on in the world, I even found myself wondering that maybe she got out while the getting was good. That's horrible I know.

Take it easy, Jane.

Dani said...

I know from the unexpected death of my mother when I was 16 what it is like to be left behind. All I can tell you is that time heals the wound, although it does not fill the gap.

Your friend was lucky to be able call you "friend".

Bless you for caring, Jane.

JaneofVirginia said...

Thanks Gorges, It is certainly better for her to go this way. I will certainly miss her !

JaneofVirginia said...

I like the part about eating dessert first. Words to live by !

JaneofVirginia said...

Matt, I am so sorry for your loss. I second all those emotions. We are left and seeking distractions while I know she is far better off. Last time I saw her we spoke a little about what was going on in the world. She said that WWII had been tough enough. Her day is now done.

JaneofVirginia said...

So very well said Dani. We exist and we function, but never quite as before. Love and loss changes us for the better, and for the worse.
Wow. Your mother would be so proud of the woman you've become and all you have achieved. Love to you and yours,

Rob said...

I'm truly sorry for your loss. Its always hard when anyone passes on. My mom died 10 years ago and some days I still want to talk her and chat. One day you will see that friend again.

JaneofVirginia said...

Thanks so much. I certainly am counting on seeing my youngest son, my Dad, and my friend, and aunts, in-laws and others again. Until then, I hear whispers of them in the wind, subtle reminders that I am loved and remembered and still experiencing all my trials and lessons on Earth. Thanks again, Rob.

kymber said...

Jane - i left a nicer comment on the original post. i am so sorry for your loss. losing loved ones is always difficult as you know so very well. make sure to allow yourself to grieve because it is a loss...of what sounds like a beautiful friendship. but remember the gift that you had and know that you will see her again. although she was a very good friend to you...Dani is right...she was lucky to call you friend, too.

much love Jane to you and yours. your friend,
kymber

Kathy Felsted Usher said...

I'm sorry to hear of you loss, it's difficult. It's funny that even if they live to a ripe, old age, that it hits you by surprise unless they were terribly ill.

JaneofVirginia said...

Yes, exactly. She was just fine and celebrating a birthday, and then gone, the very next moment in her sleep. I usually have a sense of forboding when someone is going to pass, and this time, there was norhing, just a friend I would see next month.

lotta joy said...

My bestest friend left a happy, cheerful message on my answering machine to meet at her house. In that length of time (maybe 20 minutes) she was DEAD! The pain of the shock, the disbelief, the 'waiting for the cosmos to rectify the mistake' lasted three years. I still have a red ribbon in my car that she gave me to make a card with. It's only 5 inches long, but all I have to show she was my friend.

JaneofVirginia said...

Daniel departed or shall I say, was called, in the same instantaneous way. Perhaps they are the lucky ones.